“Learn to relax”
Many smart, high-functioning people have a very difficult time relaxing for fear of forgetting something or not being prepared for problems. Often times the problems are typical course-of-life issues, and frantically waiting for them with cynicism doesn’t help the situation whatsoever. Other times, the problems are completely random and could never be prepared for anyways, so obsession in this instance doesn’t make sense, either. These people desperately want to feel like a suave, confident movie character, who has the world figured out and never seems to be facing a difficulty that can’t be overcome; but fear of failure, or ridicule, or embarrassment completely paralyze the risk taking, leaving only the thinking. They may retreat into momentary glimpses of coolness, and then immediately jump back into anxiety, now with a little extra fervor, because that may have been the moment that something was forgotten. To find a solution for their over-active mind patrolling, they either develop destructive habits to numb themselves, lean on explosive emotions to distract themselves, or explore self-improvement techniques voraciously to hopefully learn a secret that they had yet to consider. The third option is obviously the healthiest, but an addiction to mental improvement can easily become an addiction to victimhood. The answer, as usual, is to face the fear head on, and practice exactly that which makes you most uncomfortable. This world places an incredible premium on comfort; it is the gold standard for most. But only progress can mend a broken mind, and you can only make progress through sacrifice; specifically, in this lesson, I want you to sacrifice comfort to achieve progress. It sounds completely counterintuitive, because for the people I have already described, comfort is the ultimate goal. But your brain’s compulsion feels like a comfort to itself because it has lived with it for so many years. Sacrifice the comfort of toxic preparedness for the discomfort of living presently, in this moment, and no other moment.
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